tim_pratt ([info]tim_pratt) wrote,
@ 2008-03-02 21:05:00
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In Like a Lion

Heather posted about this, and then posted further details, so I won't go over it all again here. The short form is, our son has congenital infantile glaucoma. It's rather rare. We caught it early, so damage to his sight should be minimal or even nil, though we won't really know until he's able to talk, and tell us; all they can test in kids this young is whether the eyes respond to light and whether they can follow objects, and River does fine on both of those. He can obviously still see our faces, though the doctors say the swelling in his eyes bends the lens such that he's probably very nearsighted.

Glaucoma's incurable, but manageable with surgery and medication. We've got him on beta blocker eye drops to manage the condition for a few days. He goes in for surgery on Wednesday. Best case scenario, he has a couple of surgeries, and he'll be good for years. 80% of cases respond very well to the initial surgeries. If we fall into the other 20%... Well. I won't go borrowing trouble.

Our pediatrician had never seen a case of infantile glaucoma. Neither had the other pediatrician she'd consulted with. Neither had the pediatric opthamologist. Sometimes it sucks to be special. Our insurance referred us out-of-network since they had no one who could do the surgery (one guy knew how, but didn't have the equipment. It would have taken him a week to get it... and River can't wait a week). So we're at the Glaucoma Center in San Francisco, which seems top-notch, and has two pediatric specialists. At least we're in good hands.

This pretty much solves my ongoing problem about deciding what charity to donate money to, with so many worthy causes in need of support. Glaucoma research it is.

And, yes, I'm periodically freaking out. The word "incurable" isn't something you want to hear in relation to your kid. The possibility of going blind will hang over him for the rest of his life. Every waiting room he's in is full of old people. He's the only kid there. It sucks profoundly.

***

Other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how was the play?

Life continues. We're moving this week. Furiously packing boxes. Got our keys to the new place on Saturday. Took over some breakables we don't want the movers to toss around today. I sat out on the balcony for a few minutes and looked at the lake, and that made me feel better. I think moving to a place with a lake view was a good investment in my mental health. (Yes, I know, white people like living by the water; at least I don't like modern furniture, bottled water, or co-ed sports, so I'm not utterly a type.)

Writing has come to a crashing halt, of course. (Fiction, anyway. Anything that involves emotional investment. Working on non-fiction is a welcome distraction.)



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[info]czakbar
2008-03-03 05:28 am UTC (link)
Hang in there, Tim! I'll keep my fingers crossed and River and you both in my thoughts.

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[info]gregvaneekhout
2008-03-03 05:30 am UTC (link)
Hoping for best possible outcomes, and still standing by if there's anything you need that your hired burly men can't provide.

And glad the lake view is already paying off. I hope to drink to any number of things there with you in the not-too-distant future.

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[info]queenoftheskies
2008-03-03 05:30 am UTC (link)
I'm so sorry.

Sending many good thoughts and prayers for your baby boy.

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[info]charlesatan
2008-03-03 05:35 am UTC (link)
Hope everything works out for your son in the end.

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[info]burger_eater
2008-03-03 05:36 am UTC (link)
Many best wishes for River's health. I hope he has the best possible outcome, plus one.

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[info]timalyne
2008-03-03 05:51 am UTC (link)
Hang in there.

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[info]sovay
2008-03-03 05:54 am UTC (link)
You and River have all my best thoughts. You also sound as though you are as on top of the situation as you can be—you are amazing parents, keep in mind. If there is anything practical to be done from across the country, please let me know; I have both friends and family in your area, and I can harass them for referrals, fruit baskets, whatnot if needed.

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[info]mizkit
2008-03-03 12:22 pm UTC (link)
Oh, God, Tim. My best thoughts to you and River and Heather.

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[info]wyrdwriter
2008-03-03 01:00 pm UTC (link)
*hugs* for you and Heather and River.

I will be keeping him in my thoughts and prayers.
Best Wishes for a successful surgery on Wednesday.

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[info]snurri
2008-03-03 01:27 pm UTC (link)
Take care, all of you.

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[info]shadesong
2008-03-03 01:36 pm UTC (link)
All luck to you guys...

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[info]jimhines
2008-03-03 02:06 pm UTC (link)
I can't imagine how stressful and scary this has got to be. It sounds like you've got a great surgeon, and you were fortunate to catch it so early. I'll be thinking about you guys, and hoping everything goes well for poor River.

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[info]_stranger_here
2008-03-03 02:22 pm UTC (link)
Please take care of yourselves during all of this, okay? Stay strong and healthy. Sending every good vibe I can muster, and I wish there were more I could do -- love you.

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[info]kythiaranos
2008-03-03 02:26 pm UTC (link)
I'll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers this week. I hope all goes well with the surgery.

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[info]jonhansen
2008-03-03 02:56 pm UTC (link)
Aw, man, Tim. Holy crap.

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[info]allaboutm_e
2008-03-03 05:33 pm UTC (link)
Sending good vibes for River's situation to be as managable as possible, and for you and Heather for both the parenting and moving stressors.

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[info]ericmarin
2008-03-03 07:13 pm UTC (link)
*sending lots of positive thoughts and energy your household's way*

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(Anonymous)
2008-03-04 07:40 pm UTC (link)
What everyone else said--thoughts and prayers to you and yours.

~Matt

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